I'm not there yet & I know I need to be. Even the necessary limited interactions trigger my rage as there is most always a lie, silence, lack of compromise, manipulation.. & I clearly see it now. It's like salt in a fresh 3rd degree burn. I constantly remind myself if the facts despite the illusion of what he projects. I live my children but I sure wish anyone had warned me. I had no idea what this was despite years of clinical training!